Often in my coaching conversations, questions around destiny and dreams are prominent.
So often we wait in a state of near paralysis for our destiny to reveal itself, or for the big dream to come to fruition. In the meantime, we are passive and frustrated; doing nothing of much significance.
So, what would happen if we changed our mindset? If I saw today as part of my destiny and thought about destiny as a process, not as a destination. This reminds me of those maps in large shopping centres; where the red dot marks “you are here”.
Being here means that today – this very minute – is part of my destiny. I am living right now that which is real and true for me. And it is from here that I get to move to there – the next destination on the map.
Focus on the next steps and how to make progress. If you are only concentrating on your final destination, it may seem so far off, and you could feel overwhelmed by all the steps required to get you there. But focusing on what you can do to move you from where you are towards where you want to be is empowering.
Ask yourself: what resources (objects, people, skills, experience and money) do I have right now that I can put to use? Too often we live in the “when everything is perfect then I will be such and such”. We are so focused on the dream that we don’t see the tools we have right in front of us to make progress.
So, what about the big dream; the over-arching goal; the big things I want for myself? Should I just accept what’s here and now as the final word? No, this moment is just one in a series of moments and the challenge is to see how one can creatively use what is present to influence what may come.
There is certainly space for parallel processes – keeping the big dream in mind and working on it while also taking concrete, active steps with what pertains to the present moment.
Even if what you have in the here and now seems pitiful or inadequate; it is real and valuable as a good starting point. If you take a good look you will probably find that you have what you need to get started. As the Chinese saying goes “a journey of a thousand miles begins with one footstep”.
So, do what you can with what you’ve got – now! Don’t waste time on hoping for perfect conditions one day – this is it. You are here!
A change in perspective can be life-changing! Reach out now to find your joy again!
